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I've been formally recovering from codependency and narcissistic abuse for more than twenty years.  Whether you're new to recovery or have been on the path for a while, my hope is that my message serves to validate you and your experiences, while making clear the path to living your best life anchored in peace, confidence, freedom, and abundance!

 

 

IT'S NOT THAT I'M HOLDING A GRUDGE ~ IT'S THAT I HAVE BOUNDARIES!

Sep 18, 2019

When we share with others about our finally having come to a decision to cut off toxic, abusive, or otherwise low-empathy and manipulative people...

 

And how we are now choosing to no longer give t...

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THE ABUSER'S M.O.

Aug 18, 2019

It continues to fascinate the hell out of me how abusive people live their lives from a place of childish entitlement, with zero gratitude or remorse...

 

Perpetually provoking the people closest to...

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WHY IT CAN BE SO HARD TO KNOW WHO'S THE CODEPENDENT AND WHO'S THE NARCISSIST

Jun 04, 2019

Close to fifteen years of recovery under my belt and the kind of nonsensical, dishonest, bullshit justifications and rationalizations narcissistic people can spew STILL shocks me at times!!

 

The BI...

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DO DESTRUCTIVE NARCISSISTS AND OTHERWISE LOW-EMPATHY PEOPLE SUFFER?

May 06, 2019

There seems to be an ongoing debate about whether or not these humans with empathy deficiency and lack of conscience actually suffer?

 

Here are my thoughts on the matter...

 

I believe they do su...

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PICK ON SOMEONE YOUR OWN AGE

Apr 26, 2019

You know their thinking is messed up and their perceptions are entirely distorted and their self-esteem is in the toilet when they're repeating mean spirited and nonsensical gossip they've heard about...

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I GOT PLAYED

Jan 18, 2019

I remember reading somewhere, something along the lines of, “Don't feel bad if you don't recognize a narcissist for what they are right away. Even the most highly trained mental health professionals g...

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TOUGH LOVE IS STILL LOVE

Oct 27, 2018

There is nothing Loving about standing idly by and allowing people to behave poorly toward you… or others while in your presence. 

There is nothing Loving about endorsing and condoning destructive be...

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HOW DO YOU DEFEND YOURSELF AGAINST LIARS?

Jul 19, 2018
Someone once asked me, "Tamie, how do you defend yourself against liars?"
 
Here was my response…
 
You don't. When you do you give your power away.
 
What I've learned is ...
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SCAPEGOATING

May 09, 2018

I find it interesting (and sad) that even in mildly unhealthy families there's often that one kid/person who has been singled out.

Like there's a semi-conscious/unconscious agreement that it's ok to ...

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WHY DO WE STAY SO LONG IN RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE ANYTHING BUT GOOD FOR US?!!

Apr 11, 2018

Why Do We Stay SO Long In Relationships That Are Anything But Good For Us?!! 

 

*** WARNING *** HIGH TRIGGER ALERT ***

 

Seriously!  Why do we do it?!! 🤔

 

I believe there's a long, long, loooon...

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